How to get supported

Most of us, swimming against the tides of trouble the world knows nothing about, need only a bit of praise or encouragement – and we will make the goal. ~Jerome Fleishman.

As we are all very excited to start this journey of dream fishing, and making the life that we want to live, it is important to remind ourselves that at some point we will all need support or be askedto support another. When this happens, it is a good idea to have support systems in place that help us surround ourselves with the right people that can give us that support.Support is giving strength to someone or something, and a support system, is a network of personal or professional contacts available to a person or organization for practical or moral support when needed.

You are not a weakling when you ask!
Sometimes in life when we are stuck, it does not occur to us that we need help. We might believe that asking for help is a form of weakness. Many of the successful people that you might admire did not make it on their own. If you ask them you will find out that there were many times when they needed and asked for support.

So when do we know that we need support?
I believe that nearly at every point in our lives we need support. However, there are several different kinds of support. To help us answer this question we have to ask ourselves this questions: have we ever felt confused, isolated, lonely and disconnected, or just felt that we are loosing self esteem or found ourself in a crisis? Have we ever felt that we are stuck on a plateau and we needed to see improvement? Then this is the right time for us to swallow our pride and ask for help.

Getting the right support

In order to get the right support from the right people at the right time, we have to build an ongoing support system. According to Charles Seashore, the contributor of the support model in the book Triple Impact Coaching by Beverly Patwell and Edith Seashore, a support system is a resource pool created to selectively support anyone in moving in a direction of choice, which leaves you stronger. Based on his model below,

we can build an effective support system in life.

Experience Support Type Outcome
Confusion Role models Clarity
Isolation Common interests Social Contacts
Aloneness Friend Intimacy-Caring
In Crisis Action Oriented Supported
Self Esteem Affirm Strength Confidence
Disconnected Referral Agents Connections
Plateau Challengers Cutting edge

Understanding the Model
The first column of the support model above shows the experiences that make us ask for support and the second column shows the type of support we need for each kind of experience we find ourselves in. The last column shows the end results that we are supposed to get when we get supported. For instance, when I was an intern here in Dreamfish and the time came when I was to work virtually. Working virtually was a new thing to me and so, being in the process of learning how to work virtually sometimes I found myself in total confusion of what I was supposed to do. This is the time that I needed  support from somebody who had experience in working virtually. So looking around me I had to write and talk to Tiffany who was my boss and also my role model in virtual working environment. When I talked to her I found clarity of what was confusing me and hence the support helped me to not only learn how to work virtually but also helped me to enjoy what I was doing during my internship program. The support I got everyday when I asked for it, helped me easy work virtually and also I successfully finish my internship program.

Making our support system

Creating our support system is as simple as just adding another column of contacts right after the outcome column on the above model. But in order for us to build an effective support system, we need to carefully reflect upon a time when we had such needs and someone helped us in

a way such that we felt we were satisfied. Lets keep in mind that it is not just having contactson paper.What counts and what defines an effective support system is having the right people that we can freely contact and those who are always passionate in helping us succeed. We shouldn’t choose somebody whom we don’t trust, otherwise we will be more frustrated at the end.

 As we all dream and act towards our dreams to make the life that we dream about lets not forget to swallow our pride and ask for help. We will never lose the site of our future when the seas are rough, if we surround ourself with support from the able hands of those people that we trust.Lets take action!
As we reflect upon our discussion above, it won’t be of any importance to us if we don’t take an immediate action! Lets think of support as something that we can lean on when we don’t feel like going on. Lets use our support system as a road map when we feel like letting go of our dreams. Lets also believe that asking for help is an extra attribute for successful people and lets not hesitate to ask when we feel we need support, after all no man is an island. To get startedfill in the form below to create an effective support system; My support system

Experience Support Type Outcome Contacts
Confusion Role models Clarity  
Isolation Common interests Social Contacts  
Aloneness Friend Intimacy-Caring  
In Crisis Action Oriented Supported  
Self Esteem Affirm Strength Confidence  
Disconnected Referral Agents Connections  
Plateau Challengers Cutting edge  
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